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According to the ‘Global Emotions’ report, 1 in 3 people say that they feel lonely, depressed and not fully appreciated; Durex’s report is no less of a shocker with the data that 56 percent people feel unsatisfied with their relationship and sexual life. Some Psychologyl associations says that 48 percent of people are constantly dealing with high levels of stress on a regular basis. Statistics vary slightly from country-to-country and year-to-year, however the negative trends continue to grow, not only in number and severity, but also engulfing a younger population with each passing year.
“Personal” is the widest category as its includes almost all the issues considered private and which we are not willing to share openly, which can influence our position, status or respect in.
Almost all the problems originate from our subconscious, and very often we protect ourselves and intellectualize it to the extent that the ‘source’ and ‘reasons’ for the ‘issue’ are not easily seen from the surface.
Being under high social pressure and artificially created ideals in advertisement, social media posts and everyday “brainwashing” of what is “good life” ,“beauty”, definition of “success” and “shining career”, sexuality, love, smart kids and “happy family,” we raise the bar higher and higher. Society is telling us to “be strong” and positive, “work hard, play hard,” while corporations promise that you can buy happiness, fulfillment and lifestyle if you work harder, consume more, use a product regularly or drive that fancy car. Almost every area of our life has unreachable and established ideals and standards. This pushes people to compare their lives to the ones they see around as ‘successful.’
Not being able to live up to these standards fully causes stress, dissatisfaction, anxiety, feeling of being not good enough and disappointment. In order to protect our inner peace, the brain will help to protect itself by building up impenetrable ‘walls’ which make it difficult to reach out for help or share your deep inner feelings out of fear of being judged or rejected .
Initially, it has a good purpose. This mental ‘wall’ makes you looks stronger from the outside, protects you from being hurt by others and from inner voices which compares your unreachable ‘ideals’ and dreams to current life. It creates soothing and logical excuses saying that you just don’t have enough resources like time, money, connections or right environment to make your dreams come true. And eventually people will believe that they are “less” then what they are and they are “not enough”. Not educated enough, beautiful, appreciated, smart, sexy, strong, rich, cherished, resourceful, strong, popular, desired, loved, or worthy enough. Building walls around yourself avoids your being broken hearted, not sharing deeply enough spares you from the risk of losing respect and “halo”, turning from your best sides will increase your social “likability”. But the price you pay for this is the inability to connect deeply, to love fully, to feel truly understood and accepted for “who you are”. The inner voice, while protecting you from facing fearful decisions and risky situations, will restrain you from making your dreams come true, from expressing yourself.
If you are not ready to work yet in a “Life advisory group,” you can book a personal appointment schedule for personal situations you would like to resolve.
Family is a broad category. While the majority understands it as a married couple system, it also includes extended parent families, extended family relationships, parenting related challenges, going through divorce, communication between members in second marriages and other variations.
Modern family psychology science is moving forward, defining laws and rules that can predict successful and happy families. A well-researched list of factors, for example, can inevitably lead to failures. Examples, as well as simple and proven facts include:
Love and family used to be a mysterious system with interconnected elements influencing each other in unpredictable ways. But, not anymore! Same as a medical health check, a method to check marital trust, connection strength and relationship depth has been in existence for many years. Psychotherapists can quite precisely pinpoint which areas need improvement.
Same as for businesses, Relationships have rules, cycles, and qualitative and quantitative measurements of the parameters for success and failure.
Successful relationships don't just “happen on their own.” You can be lucky at the beginning to have it started. But, both partners require a solid development plan, putting right processes in place, consciously eliminating harmful influences, creating functioning operations and regularly checking on key performance indicators. Both of the partners have predictable dynamics, and if managed poorly, crisis and divorce will ensue. We don't rely on luck building businesses and wealth, but somehow we still hope that the relationship of our dreams will simply build itself up !
There are no couples who don’t have disagreement, but while addressing problems, some get stronger while others break apart.
The difference between success and failure lie in the conflict management skills, strength of marital friendship, trust level, personal happiness level, knowing how to influence your partner and how to accept his/her influence, how to communicate without blame, criticism, “looking down”, or protecting yourself by attaching other person. The key lies in developing shared beliefs and values, mutual meanings and definitions, taking responsibility, building rituals of connection and closeness, ability to express needs openly, building up space where it is safe to be fragile, teaching your partner how to love you, learning how to express your feelings and needs in the way which is heard by the other partner. This sounds theoretical and generic and abstract, but behind each word there is a solid, researched and proven technique which guarantees success and strong relationships if the couple is willing to take action.
If you Fail to Plan, you Plan to Fail.
When it is a race to the top, the constant learner always wins. Career, in present times, is a give-and-take mechanism. The more effort you put in, the more you get out of your profession. Hence, proactiveness becomes crucial. It has been rightly said, “Failing to plan is planning to fail.” Productivity, on the flip side, is driven by our hunger for achievement and motivation to rise up. If you are not ready for participation in LAB forum yet and prefer personal coaching sessions dedicated to career, productivity or motivation you can book one-on-one appointments. The list of topics one may want to work with include a wide range depending on each person’s individual requests. As an example, it can be: improving leadership skills, time-management secrets, how to stop procrastinating, sustaining maximum work productivity, and work-life excellence. LAB is a one-stop shop for the aspiring CEOs, homemakers, or anyone to be the best.
Growth lies at the border of challenge and support.
Needs and sense of fulfillment change at every stage of our lives. There comes a time when we start delving deeper to find answers to the questions related to our existence, purpose, identity, and ultimately the meaning of life. It is only through introspection, communication, and insights into the self that we can form the meaning of life and consciousness itself. If you want to find out reply to question “What’s next” or “What’s beyond all that” you can book your personal session now.
Explore the deepest aspects of love, passion, and charming relationships with LAB’s proven scientific model and professional support. The experience of love, closeness and sex in relationships vary for everyone. Sometimes we hold ourselves back from fully enjoying all three, partially because our fears or lack of necessary skills and knowledge keep us from doing so. In any case, we can help you bring renewed joy in life.
Sex is a crucial aspect of adult life. It directly relates to our feelings, identity, self-worth, sense of belonging, and fulfillment. However, bad connection and understanding of female sexuality, unfulfilled sexual needs, no orgasm, the frequency of intercourse and absence of mutual satisfaction may hamper your sexual wellbeing and confidence. At LAB, you can learn the art of sensual wellbeing, reliving the virility of the youth, and the key to the fulfillment of personal needs via proven science of sexology.
Master the craft of true love, intimate relationship dynamics with LAB today!
You Attract What You Are, Not What you Want. If You Want Great, Then be GREAT!
Your body is a vehicle, a car for your mind and soul. The better it is maintained and upgraded, the longer it will deliver the much-needed high performance for your life. Your energy level, appearance, style and health are factors that affects all the aspects of your life. From professional success & finances to love and relationships. Ever thought about the first impression you make? Your looks and lifestyle define your ‘likeability’ to other people. In other words, a top-notch health, great looks, and lifestyle will help you attract the right kind of people and opportunities in your life. You can build the roadmap to attain and sustain these goals. Get started today!
Perfection is Not Attainable, but If we Chase Perfection, we Can Catch Excellence.
Not being able to identify one’s needs and selection criteria for the desired partner will lead to non-targeted choices and to not being able to recognize the partner you need, even when he or she is right in front of you. If you don't know where you are going, no road will ever take you there. Although that's how the majority of relationships in people’s life are sparkled, but unfortunately they burn out fast.
High expectations from a potential partner without knowing how to satisfy the needs of such person will lead to failed dreams, unshared love and to the inability to attract the partner you want.
When you know what sort of person you want, and you have what it takes to meet the needs of your dream partner, you will also need the skills to create “instant chemistry” (yes, it does not always happen by “itself”: it can be created)
And of course you need to move further, into building strong relationships, or marriage and a happy family, depending on your personal goals. If you are not skillful enough in the area of relationship dynamic, you are still doomed to fail. Even if the partner was perfect for you and you could have lived “happily ever after”.
Many factors and negative beliefs often hold us back when it comes to building the relationship of our dreams. Insecurity about the partner leaving us, cheating, the presence of too many options, intimacy, compatibility, and worthiness are some of the things that bother us. However, with the advanced studies between the sexes and modern relationships psychology research, it is possible to find the life partner of your dreams. Relationships are a two-way road, and so, LAB tells you the key secrets & relationship rules to attract the right partner who is compatible, affectionate and a genuine lover to you.
Romantic relationships are powered by attraction, trust, commitment, self-worth, and sexual wellness. A decline in any of those, or otherwise unfulfilled needs, might weaken the bond between the partners. Usually, the problems related to conflict management skills and efficient communication, intimacy and belonging, mutual appreciation, shared meaning and rituals of connection which will enhance positive emotions, fulfilment of personal needs in relationship, and even sexual exploration underlay a shaky relationship. LAB helps you address these issues, deal with them, and grow beyond them so that you can rekindle the burning desire, passion, and soul-bond with your partner once again. Relationships have their own dynamics. LAB enables you to identify and control your relational dynamics while finding the passionate sexual lover hidden inside you.
For groups of 10 people minimum, on request:
2 full days program
The Program is based on the research in relationship psychology, family psychotherapy, Neuro-linguistic programming, theories of several schools of PUA (Pick Up Art community), and coaching.
Some can be skeptical about PUA methods, as there are plenty of amateurs, but the best PUA communities shape thinking, self-perception, lifestyle, develop financial ambition, grow and develop a personality, improve leadership ability, offer knowledge in sexology and psychology, give advice on sports, grooming, and style. In the end, PUAs are truly becoming the outstanding master of seduction and are able to pick among the best and most desirable representatives of the opposite gender.
Covered topics include:
- Basics of successful gender communications
- Your place on the social ladder and what determines how desirable you are for a relationship
- Rules of Social Dynamics
- How to create instant "chemistry"
- Sex, sexuality, sexual frame
- Identify personal values and beliefs, which will influence the relationship's outcome;
- Decisions you need to make before you start a relationship
- Games people play and things you need to avoid
- Family scenarios. Or why you are doomed to repeat the same mistakes.
- Main crisis in relationships and how to overcome them?
- How to save time and maximize your options
-Confidence, resilience, and resourcefulness: Breaking through the fear of being outside of social rules and norms, fear of social rejection, working with shame, embarrassment, and destructive beliefs. Learning while having fun, to be free, to enjoy every process and follow your inner world and belief system without making sacrifices.Book now
For groups of 10 people minimum, on request
2 full days program: one day for relationships, one day for passion and sexuality
After you fell in love and started an amazing relationship, got married and spent some years together, the main question is how to keep the relationship fresh, make it flourish and bring happiness, fulfilment and satisfaction long-term.
There are many definitions and types of love and passion. The one which we are going to use is by Robert Steinberg. According to Robert in his triangular love model “real and ideal”, consummated love is a combination of 3 things: Intimacy, passion, and commitment. Different combinations will produce different results.
Over time, couples in a long-term relationship usually end up losing one or several of these elements. There are more detailed techniques which need to be used to identify in details the missing aspects and the extent to which they are missing in each exact case. Techniques on how to strengthen a couple’s relationship are described in individual consultation under “family” list, and will also be included in the program.
The most typical scenario is when intimacy (friendship, closeness, trust) and commitment are present, but the intimate life starts to deteriorate. The problem is deeper than the typical advice found in magazines, which states “change your perfume, dress up, try this new position or role play”. The problem goes deeper into the field of psychology, the nature of female sexuality and orgasm, dealing with stress and commitment not only related to long-term relationship and family well-being, but also with your sexual wellbeing.
If intimacy is also lost along the way and the couple doesn't connect or share similar dreams and plans, doesn't support each other and face rising dissatisfaction and disagreements on a daily basis, then urgent repair is needed.
There are many types of intimacies, and each of them a is an important brick needed to build a healthy sexual atmosphere. Among them would be
1. Emotional Intimacy – feeling closeness, the ability to share feelings, and being supportive without defensiveness.
2. Social Intimacy – having common friends and a common social network.
3.Sexual Intimacy – sharing affection, touching, cuddling, kissing, expressing admiration, having physical closeness.
4. Intellectual Intimacy – sharing ideas and experiences about life and work, understanding each other's values systems and beliefs.
5. Recreational Intimacy – sharing of experiences, common pastimes and involvement in activities and dreams.
The basis of any sexual interaction and desire will require all the types of intimacies mentioned above:
1. Creating a safe, trustworthy, stress-free environment (or familiarity and efficiency at stress reduction techniques, self-soothing and stress management methods)
2. Learning about your sexual type and individual specifics. How reptilian brain or R complex, the oldest part of the brain, influences your body responses and desires.
Getting familiar with the Dual model of sexuality. According to this model, arousal actually consists of two processes: activating the accelerator and deactivating the brakes.
If a woman has sexual difficulties, the dual control model will require us to ask main questions:
If you are only pushing Sexual “accelerators” -factors which inspire imagination and spark desire, it would be counterproductive, because first, you need to stop hitting the “brakes”. If the “brakes” or “stop factors” are too strong, no matter how much sexual stimulus might be there, the system would be stuck with no response or desire. So first learn what the obstacles are and how to remove them.
3. And the third part comes to play at last, when actual sexual education takes place. Learning practical skills, erogenous zones and right stimulus positions. Video tutorials will be provided and explained so couples can practice in a comfortable atmosphere later.Book now
For groups of 10 people minimum, on request.
1 full day program:
Sexual Satisfaction: In a recent survey, regarding the most common problems presented before sexologists, the third most common problem expressed by women was sexual dissatisfaction; with 4 out of 10 people reporting a loss or absence of sexual desire; 6 out of 10 reporting emotional or relationship problems; 5 out of 10 facing difficulties in achieving an orgasm and 4 out of 10 reporting an absence of orgasm.
Sexual theme is still somewhat of a taboo, and the less people talk about it, the more the problem becomes aggravated. Some cross-sexual statistics would help to grasp the cultural differences and habits.
Did you know that 17% of Chinese report that their sexual life is monotonous and that Australia has the highest rate of couples (28%) who have tried a threesome ?. Belgium and Poland are among the most sexually satisfied countries with 57% of the population reporting that they are “happy with their sexual life”. The lowest in this scale is China, with only 22% of satisfied population. Maybe it has to do with the fact, that only 21% are on the scale of who is “open-minded about sex life”, but have an average of 3 sexual partners before marriage, not contributing to divorce experience and the ability to enjoy. Only 22% of Chinese are comfortable talking about sex, and that could be the reason for why the rate of sexually transmitted diseases and unplanned pregnancies are on the higher end of the scale in China, compared to other countries.
As it turns out, the most cheating nationality is Turkish, with 58% of the population having extramarital affairs, while the most faithful is Israel with 7%.
*From world’s largest-ever survey on sexual attitudes and behavior, in which over 317,000 people from 41 countries took part.
Sex matters for a healthy relationship, personal confidence, and satisfaction. Unfortunately, until a few years back, female sexuality was judged, measured and compared to male’s. That lead to huge amounts of questions, confusion, complexes, and misconceptions. LAB’s program on sexuality opens up the window and reveals the main answers to questions such as:
-What determines sexuality and desire?
-Main myths about sex
-What are the top Sexual fantasies for men and women
-3 things guys wish girls would know about sex /3 things girls hope guys know about sex
-Main practices to improve sexual life in couples
-Why do women sometimes fail to achieve orgasm?
-How many types of orgasm are there?
-Erogenous zones and physiology
-Technology, accessories, and toys.
-Where does "normal" end?
Learning practical skills, erogenous zones, right stimulus positions. Video tutorials will be provided and explained so couples can practice in a comfortable atmosphere later.Book now